The thing is, they practice, study and expose themselves to that which holds their interest. Those areas that capture their eye most they work to strengthen without even realizing it. They may have been blessed with people whom they admire and learned at their sides, listening to their words and watching their movements.
My grandson is a sponge right now. He looks upon his world with wonder and wide-eyed amazement. He follows those who seem the most like him – my boys – his dad, included.
He does defer to his youngest aunt as well, because she is a girl like Momma, but almost his size as well. If we take the time to explain to him, “This is what we are going to do and then this,” and lay out our plans, he is much more likely to go along and not have the famous 2-year-old’s tantrums.
Interestingly, if I tell his uncles and aunt that their rooms do not look like they want to see a movie or participate in some activity for the weekend, their rooms will magically be cleaner the next time I look – at least most of the time.
Why am I telling you this? Well, life is about trade-offs. If we expect to increase or gain in a certain area, we must delve into it. We do this by reading, studying, observing, practicing, and asking questions – exposing ourselves to the information.
My sister used to frustrate me when she would make allowances for her children in math because, “Well, I was no good in math, either.” So what! Did you even try to get better at it?
My oldest daughter works in the medical field in a lab and deals with hospital patients. Not my cup of tea, but I am proud of her efforts and would never think to belittle what she does.
Science was never a strong suit for me, but we need people who are good at that and I am happy she is and has found her niche. I taught her basic crochet and she has taken that to an entirely new level, “out-crocheting” me by a landslide.
She oozes creativity while I have spurts once in while. I listen on as my daughter-in-law introduces new concepts to my grandson adding, “Don’t you love it?” He replies with a more positive reaction because of her approach.
She doesn’t respond to the daily bumps and bruises in an “Oh, my baby!” mode, but rather, says, “Oh my, where did you hurt? Do you want me to kiss it?” and then proceeds to dole out her “medical treatment” asking if that helped.
Sometimes, he says yes and runs on, and sometimes he will point to yet another spot that needs attention. But there is no panic and no upheaval in her response, so he takes it in stride as well.
Things happen, we fix them and we move on.
Our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our reality. This is also true as we speak to those we encounter.
That little flap inside our mouths can cause more damage and conversely be used for more good than almost anything else we do. The Bible says it like this: “A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but willful contrariness in it breaks down the spirit.” (Proverbs 15:4)
But I found this as well: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it.” (Proverbs 18:21)
Backing up just one verse we read, “A man’s self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth; and with the consequence of his words he must be satisfied (whether good or evil).” (Proverbs 18:20)
What is the world we are creating either for us or those around us? What blessings or curses are we placing before us? How is our “encouragement” manifesting itself?
I have to watch myself from moment to moment and have had even my younger children stop me on occasion. I thank God daily that He has not yet given up on me and I will continue to study, observe, practice and delve into improving in my sphere of influence.