The squabbling had begun. We needed to change this fast.
I mean, Thanksgiving and Christmas are right around the corner! Let’s not even look to the years ahead and the formation of their coping skills.
I said sweetly, “I’m so sorry,” and then I started singing, “Here comes Santa Claus.” I played Hoku’s song, “Perfect Day.”
I put on the Mama’s and the Papa’s “Make Your Own Kind Of Music,” and Natalie Grant’s “Perfect People” over the next few minutes. It didn’t help, so I stopped to get my e-mail opened to a notice I’d received a few days prior. Joel Osteen will send them out daily, Monday through Friday, if you request them. He wrote on choosing happiness. I thought I had reviewed that with my children before.
Perhaps my fussing about their rooms and their habits of dropping things wherever they enter the house had been misunderstood, so they carried on with their own crankiness. I only tell them these things to help them find their belongings when they need them. Everything in its place, you know.
Then I thought of the phrase about joy comes in the morning and the person had obviously never had to ready children for school! I mean, I wake up in a good mood and it’s especially evident as they head out the door to catch the bus or I drop them off at the school, but between the time that they are awakened and they finally get out the door, there is some groaning going on, and it’s not me!
It’s hard some days. I mean, I can fuss, too. I can out-fuss anyone if I really wanted to do it.
Sometimes I write about what upsets me. Of course, I probably wouldn’t publish it because it doesn’t go with the direction of the column.
I do, however, reinforce my beliefs and my stance with a lot of memorized pieces of scripture I’ve hidden in my heart over the years. It’s my protection from becoming too negative or allowing my joy to diminish.
I “feed” my heart and my mind with the things that can help my attitude be all that it should be to help my children be the best that they can be. I am not always successful. I get upset with them or circumstances.
Then I look to all the blessings that I have. I look to the choices that I have. I am not without options and I surround myself with positive and uplifting information and people. When I am wrong, I apologize, although I sometimes try to argue myself out of it.
But let’s get back to the attitude. Osteen’s blurb cited John 16:22 - the last few words. I will list it here in its entirety. “Therefore you now have sorrow; but I will see you again and your heart will rejoice, and your joy no one will take from you.”
We may have - will have - sorrows, disappointments, loss, disagreements, frustrations and more, but how we choose to handle it is up to us.
Perhaps I have no shoes - there are those without feet.
Do we willingly hand over our happiness to someone else or are we going to face each situation with a determination to seek joy? Seems like a no-brainer to me.